The Makings of a Man

Have you ever noticed that when the bell rings for recess every kid sprints to play on their favorite playground equipment? One kid goes to his locker and pulls out his brand new basketball. When he walks on the playground, every one of his classmates gravitates towards him and his new basketball. It’s almost like they forgot about the kickball or the monkey bars, and the slide is now a thing of the past, it’s time to play basketball.

Ever get the feeling that Black men are the same way with Latinas? They seem to drop Black women like an old kickball and move onto the new shiny thing they see. I think the short answer to the question, are Black men obsessed with Latinas is, yes. Speaking of myself personally, I don’t think I am. I find all types of women attractive. I’ve dated women from different parts of the world. I’ve personally said to my friends, “I really don’t think Black women like me.” I believe that people typically will date the people in their environment. And unless you want to toss it up every weekend, you're dating pool is Black women, Latinas, a couple of white women, and an occasional Asian chick.

I think that some Black men are obsessed with Latinas though. I think stereotypes about long (real) hair, and lighter skin do exist. People believe that having kids with Latinas will produce better looking kids. However, this surely goes both ways. I think that most men who are obsessed with Latinas for their looks will soon find out that they come in so many different forms, you’re likely to find that Latinas look just like Black women. I remember as a child I would just get so tickled at, “it was dry and straight, now it’s wet and curly!” I still find this amusing today over 20 years later. Nonetheless, it’s still a dumb reason to be obsessed with Latinas not all of them have curly hair.

I think that some Black men are obsessed with Latinas because of the language. Some people find Spanish, Italian or Portuguese to be romantic languages. But, this has nothing to do with Latinas, I think it’s just that it’s in a different language. If you were dating a girl who spoke Mandarin Chinese and she just went into a rant during coital activities, you would get turned on. I am not sure of the fascination with someone who has an accent, it can be sexy, but I think communication is important to me, it’s more important that I understand what you’re talking about. I’ve never been one to say, “Oh that’s so cute you can’t say 'museum'.” That just seems stupid to me.

I think that Black men perceive Latinas are more submissive. Black women and Latinas listen up, men always think things are greener on the other side. Black women need to own up to their street-cred though. Men of all races tend to believe that Black women have an attitude problem. A lot of men choose to date outside the race because they just can’t deal with that attitude. If you go back to that prior statement I made about Black women not liking me, it’s because to be honest with you, I’m not backing down. If you tell me something that I don’t agree with, I will not be suckered into a confession. Black people we have to be honest, we are confrontational people, we are in your face. Likewise, so are Latinas, women are women, they are all a little unstable, they all are a little too emotional, and they all want what they want.

I think that Black men think that Latinas are more catering to their men. This is just false. I’ll explain. Why do Latinas serve their men? Because that’s how they were raised. If you meet a Latina who was not raised to serve men, guess what happens? You're not getting a Corona until the Cleveland Browns win the Super Bowl. You can meet several Black women who were raised in homes where the boys were catered to and they will do the same thing. What you should do is check and see how she was raised before making a decision about who you want to date.

I’m getting ready to dive into a can of worms as I try to close this out. So do Black men put up with a Latina’s crap before they will a Black woman’s? This is a good point. If you will let a Latina do it to you, but you don’t let Black women do it, chances are, you have some type of issue. I have had to check myself before and be honest with myself, taking that pin out of her hair and her long black hair flowing all over her back while in the reverse cowboy position just isn’t worth it when she cusses me out right after. A lazy woman is a lazy woman is a useless woman. Having your “Latina” laid up in the house all the time, not doing anything, is not doing anything for you. I need to know that if I go to the trunk to get my .45, my Butter Pecan Puerto Rican (big ups to my 'uncle' Snoop, he was a fool for that line) is going to get the switch blade too. We have to work together.

So I put it all on the table, I’m interested to hear your thoughts. Do you think Black Men are obsessed with Latinas? I’d like to hear from Latinas on this one too.