The Makings of a Man

I’m not going to waste a lot of time rehashing points that we all know to be true. There's a large number of Black women who dislike white women stealing their men. They don’t like it one bit. Black women have put in significant amounts of work towards supporting their men despite jail, drugs and unemployment. They don’t appreciate it when their men run off with the “oppressor.” Therefore, Black women think that Black men know this and instead of dating white women date Latinas and Asian women. But in summary, Black women believe that their men want the light skin, light eyes and the straight hair and that’s why they date Latinas.

I’m not going to lie to you, the Black male dating pool is thin. Many Black men are in fact in jail or in a life of crime. The number of “educated” Black women largely outnumbers the amount of “educated” Black men. Black women love them some brothers so they are aggressive and protective of their men. If there are six Black women for every one qualified Black male, then when half of those Black men are dating Latinas, there are now twelve Black women for every qualified Black male. Desperate times, call for desperate measures.

Racist Black women attack Latinas on everything. They attack them on, intellect, language, looks, and even how they treat their men. I’ve been told that Black men only date Latinas because they have an accent and don’t speak English well. I would be lying if I didn’t hear a man brag about that every now and then. But there is nothing that a Latina can do to change that. If a man finds her accent to be cute and that’s why he is with her, trust me, it will not last. Furthermore, we can spend hours discussing if people living in the United States whose first language is not English, would rather not speak English or would enjoy the opportunity to learn English better. I choose the latter.

Some Black women believe that Latinas get men because they have straight hair, lighter skin, or lighter eyes. That’s just ridiculous… Latinas come in every size, shape, color, and texture possible. However, and this is really important that we understand this point, we cannot, will not, condone the judgment or the characterization of people based solely on their looks. It’s dangerous territory for any Black person to be operating under those misconceptions. And so I’m going to have to raise a card on this one too and say that Black women are guilty of this one too.

Have you ever heard this? “Only a Black woman can love a Black man the way he needs to be loved. Because only a Black person knows what it means to be Black in this world.” Once again attacking someone’s intelligence, attacking someone’s ability to understand, and further separating people of color in America. I don’t like that claim one bit! My family taught me what it meant to be a Black man, and they also taught me how to stand on my own two feet and be Black man. I’m sorry I do not need my woman to help me, or teach me, or inform me, what being Black in this world is about.

The last thing I’m going to touch on is the belief that all Latinas want from Black men is money and sex. Well, we can take money out of the equation, because we make far less than some other races. Maybe more than Latin men, but certainly less than white or Asian Americans. The sex, Black sexuality is such a touchy subject. It’s offensive to Black men when you reduce a woman’s attraction to us to just sex. Black men don’t need Black women to tell them that some women outside of their race only wants them for sex. And it’s racist towards Latinas to accuse them of trying to make Black men into their Big Black Buck.

One of the things I always like to bring up is that Latinas aren’t approaching Black men. Black men are approaching Latinas. I think when a Black woman finds that her hate has been displaced on a Latina, she might want to look inside the organization first. No offense, but a person looks so silly when they’re defending someone who isn’t defending themselves… willing to fight for something that isn’t interested in fighting for themselves. Ladies let me tell you something, Latinas are not heroin or crack cocaine, you are not saving Black men from themselves by refusing to let them date Latinas. It’s just a woman; it’s who he might fall in love with, it’s who he might be attracted to, it’s who he might choose to marry. Stop coming up with racist reasons for why a Black man chooses to date a Latina, matter fact, stop worrying about Black men who have chosen to not date you. Worry about the Black men who want to date you, all others are irrelevant.